{"id":102350,"date":"2024-01-28T20:30:00","date_gmt":"2024-01-28T21:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/?p=102350"},"modified":"2024-01-28T22:21:36","modified_gmt":"2024-01-28T22:21:36","slug":"couples-workshop-helps-veterans-strengthen-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/?p=102350","title":{"rendered":"Couples workshop helps Veterans strengthen relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

Prior to meeting his wife Ana, Navy Chief Petty Officer Paul Scherman spent more than 22 months in Afghanistan during two deployments.<\/p>\n

The couple has been married for seven years, but PTSD put a strain on their relationship. \u201cWe\u2019ve been a little rocky here and there in our marriage,\u201d said Scherman, who served 24 years as a reservist. \u201cAll my fault. I have PTSD and sometimes my communication skills are lacking.\u201d<\/p>\n

To strengthen their relationship, the couple (pictured above) decided to try Houston VA\u2019s<\/a> one-day couples workshop. The workshop, BRAVE (Building Relationships with Vitality and Engagement), is a one time, five- to six-hour group workshop for Veterans and their partners.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u201cIt was a very good workshop. They give you a lot of good material and put together a very nice packet, which is extremely helpful because you have materials after the workshop to refer to and apply. If you\u2019re open to using the tools and communicating, it can help your marriage,\u201d Scherman shared.<\/p>\n

Therapists guide couples through activities and discussion<\/h2>\n

The workshop is offered virtually and in-person, and is led by two mental health therapists who guide the couples through activities and discussion.<\/p>\n

\n
<\/a>
Danny Slater and Leah Guillory-Slater<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n

\u201cThe BRAVE couples workshop is really focused on helping Veteran couples communicate better, developing greater understanding of each other and enhancing intimacy,\u201d said Dr. Lilian Dindo, associate professor at Baylor College of Medicine and Research Health Scientist at Houston VA. \u201cRelationship difficulties are prevalent among Veterans and relationship distress is associated with a range of challenging issues, including depression and anxiety, as well as hopelessness. Conversely, stable relationships are a source of resilience.\u201d<\/p>\n

The BRAVE couples workshops are small by design\u2014typically four to five couples\u2014which allows participants an opportunity to share and relate with each other as a group.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019re very human in the workshops. If you have a pulse, you will have challenges in life. It\u2019s how you respond to these challenges and to what life throws your way that matters in the long run,\u201d Dindo said.<\/p>\n

The entire workshop is completed in one day, so it feels like a retreat where couples can just focus on each other and the relationship for the day.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Ana Scherman said the workshop has helped her communicate better with Paul and also understand him better. \u201cA relationship is something you have to continuously work on. A car needs a tune-up and your relationship does, too. What better way to do that than taking a workshop to reconnect.\u201d<\/p>\n

Acceptance and Commitment Training workshops<\/h2>\n

In 2018, Houston VA began offering one-day Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT) workshops for Afghanistan and Iraq War Veterans in rural communities, with support from the Office of Rural Health.<\/p>\n

Initially, VA prioritized Veterans with PTSD, anxiety and depression who faced the challenges of reintegrating into their local community following combat service.<\/p>\n

The focus on the ACT workshops was to help Veterans cope with the challenges of reintegrating back into civilian society, to connect with their \u2018new mission\u2019 after returning home and live full and meaningful lives even in the presence of difficult memories and emotions.<\/p>\n

The success of the ACT workshops led Veterans to refer other Afghanistan and Iraq War Veterans and, eventually, Veterans from all eras began requesting the workshop.<\/p>\n

Now, any Veteran can attend<\/h2>\n

\u201cWe heard from our community partners and Veterans that there are Vietnam and Gulf War Veterans who want to do this, along with Veterans who didn\u2019t deploy. We no longer have criteria for participation. Any Veteran can attend,\u201d Dindo said.<\/p>\n

In 2022, Houston VA added the BRAVE couple\u2019s workshop due to demand from Veterans who wanted to bring their spouse or partner. \u201cWhen we asked for feedback, something that consistently came up was Veterans asking to bring their partners. Veterans felt the workshop allowed them to understand themselves and their experiences better, and they wanted to share this with their partner in a safe environment,\u201d Dindo added.<\/p>\n

\u201cI knew I could trust VA.\u201d<\/h2>\n

Last year, Army Veteran Danny Slater underwent brain surgery at Houston VA after he suffered a stroke. Unfortunately, he is no longer able to do some of the physical activities he previously did with his wife, Leah, such as foreign travel.<\/p>\n

They attended a BRAVE couples workshop hoping to learn new skills that would help them navigate the challenges of life after a stroke.<\/p>\n

\u201cHis stroke put a lot of stress on our marriage, and I wanted the counseling,\u201d said Leah. \u201cDanny had a wonderful team of doctors who performed his brain surgery and Houston VA has helped him tremendously. I knew I could trust VA.\u201d<\/p>\n

Slater recommends the workshop to all Veterans. \u201cIt was more than what I expected. The material they send you ahead of time is thorough and professional. It was very helpful to get an idea of what to expect. I also think the two therapists did a great job facilitating the class and promoting involvement.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Prior to meeting his wife Ana, Navy Chief Petty Officer Paul Scherman spent more than 22 months in Afghanistan during two deployments. The couple has been married for seven years, but PTSD put a strain on their relationship. \u201cWe\u2019ve been a little rocky here and there in our marriage,\u201d said Scherman, who served 24 years […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":102352,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[943,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-102350","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-brave","category-health"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102350","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=102350"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102350\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":102353,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102350\/revisions\/102353"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/102352"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=102350"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=102350"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/adn.monetizemail.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=102350"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}